Friday, January 26, 2024

The Reality of Missing Out

Wayne Gretzky: Bio, Stats, News & More - The Hockey Writers

Known as the greatest hockey player ever, based on statistics, performance and countless trophies and medals, Wayne Gretzky didn’t just play hockey successfully.  He was not just lucky. He did not just practice. His dynamic scoring had nothing random about it. He studied it. And as a result, he could not just see where the puck was, but could visualize strategically with mathematical precision where it was going, empowering him to execute the right moves at exactly the right time.  He dominated the game, not despite his unimpressive size or natural athletic abilities, but because of his focus.  The area behind the opposing team’s net became known as “Gretzky’s office,” because that is where he would seal his deals. 

He was known for saying, “You miss one hundred percent of the shots you don’t take.”

I saw that quotation handwritten on a piece of construction paper at Home Depot yesterday.  I have no idea why it was taped on a wall near the registers.  But it made me think of prayer.

We miss one hundred percent of the prayers we don’t pray.”

If we don’t pray, it doesn’t mean that God does not work it out, but we miss out on the reality of not just seeing His hand, but of His Presence.  We don’t pray to have some super power over circumstances, but to experience His sovereignty in real time.  God guides our thoughts. God aligns our hearts.  God provides His strength and a different way through the overwhelming.  We cannot but be changed in some way when we pray.

Nor can the world.

In praying, we realize we are not in this situation alone.  God does not just show up.  But we realize He is already here.

And in praying for others, we don’t just bring help, but bring witness.  Recently, a friend shared on a zoom call that he was facing a medical procedure he had been dreading for years.  “Oh, my brother had that,” I said.  “He’s fine now.”

Another woman just replied quietly with four profound words, “I’ll pray for you.”

Immediately, I felt like I had tried to fix his dilemma with a happy face band-aid, devoid of faith.  She provided him what he needed most.  Later, he commented about how much her sensitive response gave him peace.

What if we pray?  What if we don’t?  We will never know what we are missing. 

Corrie ten Boom once said, “Don’t expect anything different if you don’t pray.”

What do we miss if we do not pray?  We don’t see God with us.  We overlook His divine appointments and sacred encounters.  We discount His mighty work in our lives.  We ignore that He is God, and we are not.  We miss knowing Him more through this divinely appointed situation.

When we pray, we don’t give God room to work or let Him work – that is not in our power.  Praying does not put God in His place.  It puts us in ours. 

When we walk with Him and cry out to Him, God responds to our needs --sometimes in ways we don’t understand – but He always responds with eternal reverberations far beyond our lifetimes and in the lives of people we may never know.  Praying is trusting Him, not with a particular answer or outcome, but with our lives.  He invites us into His wonders.  God may or may not change circumstances, but through praying to Him, He gives us the courage we need to do what He has given us to do and to be.

The LORD hears when I call to Him.  Psalm 4.3 

And on that Scripture alone, we can stake our lives.  

Saturday, January 20, 2024

What Do I Want To Be When I Grow Up?

Looking in the rearview mirror, my husband and I discussed over supper not just what we did in 2023, but “What did God awaken in me this year?” And that went far beyond a litany of our feeble accomplishments to a liturgy of who He is.   

God calls us to much deeper than our accomplishments, but to pray continually, live faithfully, love well, practice grace, and trust Me in this.

God calls us to Himself.

So in 2024, instead of creating an elaborate bucket list of resolutions or goals -- what I want to do -- I am thinking more about what I want to be.  What do I want God to awaken in me this year? Who am I becoming?  I am considering the incremental investments I need to make in my being and relationship with Him for the now and the yet to come.

In his memoir Everything Sad is Untrue, author Daniel Nayeri talks about how his mom navigated their overwhelming hardships as refugees.  "But what you believe about the future will change how you live in the present.  That’s how she did it."

How do we view our future? On what are we staking our lives?  Not what we want to do, but who we want to be when we grow up.

New York Times opinion writer Tish Harrison Warren views this time as an opportunity:  "...the chief value of resolutions is not found in our success or failure at keeping them.  Instead, they help us reflect on what our lives are like, what we would like them to be like, and what practices might bridge the difference.  There is goodness then in the very process of making resolutions.  There is hope in the idea that we can change -- that we can keep growing, learning and trying new things.  This hope of renewal is the point of resolutions for me."

We are not stuck.  We can change.

Becoming calls for continual growth, no matter how old we are, a moveable feast.

Like every year before this, the new year is made up of ordinary days.  What incremental changes can I make today?  In what am I investing this year?  What intentions would you add to your list? 

This is what I am working on:

* Pay attention.  ...to have the mind of Christ. 1 Corinthians 2. 16

*Write something, read something, run something every day.  Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might.  Ecclesiastes 9. 10

*Weave kindness in my words. ...that I may show the kindness of God to him.  2 Samuel 9.3

*Don't interrupt.  ...slow to speak. James 1. 19

*Do small things well.  Do not despise the day of small things.  Zechariah 4. 10

*Listen.  Really listen to others and to God.  ...listen to Me. Blessed are those who keep My ways.  Proverbs 8. 32

*Be present.  Therefore encourage one another and built one another up, just as you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5. 11

*Reinvent.  Reinvest.  Recreate.  Redeem. Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due when it is in your power to do it.  Proverbs 3. 27

*Ask questions.  Lots of questions.  ... Jesus spoke to him first, saying, "What do you think?" Matthew 17. 25

And when we come to the end of the year, how will we find we are different?  Will others recognize that we have been walking with Jesus?  And by what will we be known?  Not by our accomplishments, but that We are His.

And where do we start?  Not with resolutions, but living intentionally, composing something new right where God has placed us today.  

In his beautiful piece The Singing Bowl, poet Malcolm Guite suggests:

Begin the song exactly where you are,

Remain within the world of which you’re made.

Call nothing common in the earth or air,

 

Accept it all and let it be for good.

Start with the very breath you breathe in now,

This moment’s pulse, this rhythm in your blood

 

And listen to it, ringing soft and low.

Stay with the music, words will come in time.

Slow down your breathing. Keep it deep and slow.

 

Become an open singing-bowl, whose chime

Is richness rising out of emptiness,

And timelessness resounding into time.

 

And when the heart is full of quietness

Begin the song exactly where you are.

 

Friday, January 12, 2024

A Feast of Books 2023


 

    

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

O     Of making many books there is no end...  Ecclesiastes 12. 12 

        And we are glad.

       Looking through the list of books I read in 2023, I was so thankful that I kept a list to remind me of these savory, delicious readings.  Each one was nourishing in its own way.  I found myself grateful for the faithful writers who slaved over manuscripts, putting together words, like so many ingredients in a recipe not yet written down.  

       And on those pages, bound between covers, I was amazed at the real lives that are portrayed, even the imaginary ones.  They inform us about others.  They reveal so much stuff about ourselves.  As I finished reading so many of these books, I couldn't wait to tell someone else, "you have to read this."  This year in books was indeed a feast.

       I also noticed that my books this year were almost equally divided between fiction, memoir, spiritual, and nonfiction.  And how those categories infiltrated one within another, spiritual insights in a novel, extraordinary memoirs both stronger and stranger than fiction, and nonfiction with words for the wise and those who want to be.  I ended the year once again with the last chapter of Revelation.  Reading through the Bible each year changes me.

       But some of the treasure is not just found in my list of books, but in the notes that I take, jotting down pertinent quotes, passages, images, and truths that have been translated into what I can understand.  I have kept those notes in a file on my laptop since 2010.   Some quotes make their way into this nightlytea blog and into my other blog Daily Scriptures for Busy People www.worddujour.blogspot.com

       And hopefully into how I live.

H    Here's my list for 2023:

  

           You Are My Sunshine:  a Story of Love, Promises, and a Really Long Bike Ride by Sean Dietrich (2022)

2.      How It Went:  Thirteen More Stories of the Port William Membership by Wendell Berry (2022)

3.      Letters From Westerbork by Etty Hillesum (1982)

4.      Timothy Keller:  His Spiritual and Intellectual Formation by Collin Hansen (2023)

5.      Prayer:  Finding the Heart’s True Home by Richard J. Foster (1992)

6.      The Lives We Actually Have: 100 Blessings for Imperfect Days by Kate Bowler and Jessica Richie (2023)

7.      The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe by C. S. Lewis (1950)

8.      Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan (2021)

9.      The Tale of Despereaux by Kate DiCamillo (2003)

10    The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness by Timothy Keller (2012)

11     Confronting Christianity by Rebecca McLaughlin (2019)

12   Forgive:  How Can I and Why Should I?  by Timothy Keller (2022)

13   The Meaning of Marriage:  Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy Keller with Kathy Keller (2011)

14.   Bird by Bird:  Some Instructions on Writing and Life by Anne Lamont (1994)

15.   On Getting Out of Bed:  The Burden and Gift of Living by Alan Noble (2023)

16.   Stories of My Life by Katherine Paterson (2022)

17.   How To Human:  Three Ways To Share Life Beyond What Distracts, Divides, and Disconnects Us by Carlos Whittaker (2023)

18.   Louisiana’s Way Home by Kate DiCamillo (2018)

19.   The One and Only Ruby by Katherine Applegate (2023)

20.   In The Garden of The Righteous:  The Heroes Who Risked Their Lives to Save Jews During the Holocaust by Richard Hurowitz (2023)

21.   A Praying Life:  Connecting With God in a Distracting World by Paul E. Miller (2009)

22.   Spilling Ink:  A Young Writer’s Handbook by Anne Mazer and Ellen Potter (2010)

23.   Everything Sad is Untrue by Daniel Nayeri (2020)

24.   The Many Assassinations of Samir, the Seller of Dreams by Daniel Nayeri (2023)

25.   Prayers of St. Paul by Rev. W. H. Griffith Thomas (1914)

26.   Elisabeth Elliot:  A Life by Lucy S. R. Austen (2023)

27.   Our Town by Thorton Wilder (1938)

28.   The Third Third of Life:  Preparing for Your Future by Walter C. Wright (2012)

29.   The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien (1937)

30.   Run the World by Becky Wade (2016)

31.   The Puppets of Spelhorst by Kate DiCamillo (2023)

32.   Prayer 101:  Experiencing the Heart of God by Warren Wiersbe (2006)

33.   The Heaven & Earth Grocery Store by James McBride (2023)

34.   Undone:  A Modern Rendering of John Donne’s Devotions by Philip Yancey (2023)

35.   Mystery and Manners:  Occasional Prose by Flannery O’Connor (1957)

36.   Flee North: A Forgotten Hero and the Fight for Freedom in Slavery’s Borderland by Scott Shane (2023)

37.   How Far To The Promised Land:  One Black Family’s Story of Hope and Survival in the American South by Esau McCaulley (2023)

38.   The Inquisitor’s Tale: Or, The Three Magical Children and Their Holy Dog by Adam Gidwitz (2016)

39.   How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen by David Brooks (2023)

40.   The Bible